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Meant to Be

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We recently went to see the film Instant Family, which is about adoption, with a friend who has two adopted children, too. It was just a bag, but I had really wanted to use it; filling it with nappies, wipes, a change of clothes, snacks and a book had brought me so much joy. I had 3 attempts but like Lisa I only have fleeting memories, I think it was all too sad and hidden away. I realised what was most important: to love unconditionally, to nurture and mould, to watch a child grow and flourish. When the doctor told me this, I had no idea they wouldn’t be able to move the baby to where it was meant to be, that I’d need surgery to have my tube removed.

This is not a book for the faint hearted,I can relate to her story as I have been through the pain of conceiving as a parent. I cried through a lot of this book, not for sadness of what was not to be but of the grief I felt at the time and wasn’t able to express. I had made dinner, we had kept her safe, we hadn’t done anything to overstimulate her and she had very happily gone to bed, and more importantly to sleep. A very warm and frank telling of the many years Lisa and her now ex husband and their infertility story.She went through IVF three times with her former partner, suffered an ectopic pregnancy, investigated surrogacy and then decided to adopt after finding out she was infertile. It seemed that as soon as my biological clock started ticking, it escalated to a disco beat pretty damn fast. But, in the months and years that followed, she discovered that there was more than one way to build a family - and that there is a lot of joy to be found in life's unexpected detours. As someone who has gone through 5 rounds of IVF and had two miscarriages, this book resonated deeply with me. However, Chris and I get on better now than we ever did, I’ve recently married chef John Torode and we all parent together.

Hearst UK is the trading name of the National Magazine Company Ltd, 30 Panton Street, Leicester Square, London, SW1Y 4AJ. Thoroughly moving book and a brave and honest account of the epic journey some women face to become a mother. Nobody batted an eyelid; there was too much paperwork to get through and too many questions to be answered concerning Billie’s wellbeing. A great reminder that our paths may be different to those intended, but we can still get to the destination.As someone finding unable to have children now through sudden medical reasons before being able to try, I found it comforting/interesting to hear her views. One minute she was in a foster home, now she was with us, a different set of people looking after her, yet within the space of a day, things felt almost normal. The things that I utterly relate to are that she always felt on the outside and that the grief never leaves you . Lisa takes you on an emotional journey of the challenges she and other couples have faced to become a parent.

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